The fear of being lonely is such a powerful thing. It causes people to behave irrationally, to naively stay in an abusive relationship, whether that abuse is emotional and/or physical. Sometimes it'll even drive the people involved in a dysfunctional relationship to fix their problems by getting married and/or having a baby together. Sure, it may temporarily bond the two of you back together, artificially. But when you take a moment to dissect the situation, you'll realize that the insides are still deeply wounded and bruised.
So what next? Maybe you'll have another kid. Maybe you'll drown yourself underneath the facade that everything is fine and dandy. Maybe you'll find an outlet for your emotional desperation with someone else, even though you're still in your unhappy relationship.
You'll probably try shrugging the situation off by claiming that you two are better now, that you've worked out your issues and are head-over-heels in love again like before. And, again, maybe everything is better and back to normal. For now. And then the curtains are drawn back and you realize that shit hit the fan a long, long time ago.
But will you leave? Probably not. Because the fear of being lonely is such a powerful thing.
2 comments:
I just HAD to show this to my friend. She's in a similar situation, but fortunately, strong enough to handle her own. I couldn't have explained it better myself though! Amen to that :D
Good for her for being strong :) It's sad to see when destructive cycles are hard to break free from, so hopefully she makes the decision that's truly right for her.
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