stay with you.

And in the end I know that we'll find love so beautiful and divine
We'll be lovers for a lifetime


In my response to the short film Strangers, Again by Wong Fu Productions, I mentioned how there's no such thing as the perfect partner and the perfect relationship. If you keep searching for perfection, for your uber special unicorn, you'll either be alone in your lifelong search or you'll end up staying in an unhappy relationship. As beautiful as it is to dream of perfection, to pray and hope to find a utopian love, there is no such thing.

There'll be heartaches and pain because real love takes work. Maybe you'll fight and argue about little things, like where to send your unborn children to school or how you wish he'd let you buy five Yorkshire Terriers. Maybe you'll fight about issues that delve deeper into your insecurities, like how he can be good friends with his ex or how she doesn't mind going out to the club with her cousins once in a while. Maybe you'll wanna lock yourself in the closet underneath the stairs because he was out playing three rounds of golf instead of one. Maybe you'll wish she got laryngitis so that you wouldn't have to hear her bitch and moan about every little thing. Maybe you'll be separated by a couple hundred miles for days, weeks, months, years, and it'll eat your heart from the inside out because all you wanna do is hold him and smell his chest because of all those silly little annoyances.

People don't make it to 30 years without any arguments or disagreements. People make it to 30 years because they worked through those arguments and disagreements in a healthy way. Sometimes you won't want to speak to him so that you won't go fucking irate on his ass, and sometimes you'll wonder why the hell she blew up on you for something so stupid. But when everything is all said and done, once you've tucked your horns back into your head, you realize that all the petty nuisances don't change the fact that you want to spend the rest of your life with this person. Because although he or she may not be perfect, you know your relationship, your lifelong partnership is worth working for. A perfect love exists when you're willing to acknowledge and work through all the slight imperfections.

I will stay with you through the ups and the downs
I will stay with you when no one else is around
And when the dark clouds arise, I will stay by your side